Dating in your 20’s is the most amazing yet toughest things you can ever do. While when you were single you might not have realised just how lucky you were from saving yourself from loads of misery that comes once you fall in love. Don’t get me wrong, love is great and beautiful but when you are young there comes ambition, dreams and lessons.
Being in your 20’s you aren’t settled. You want to explore, do new things, travel the world, explore, fall in love and do so much more. While one beautiful thing happens to you, the rest does catch up sooner or later in the relationship.
Here are the advantages and disadvantages of falling in love
Advantage: While your parents or friends might not the supportive at times, true love really is. They want to nurture your thoughts, explore your dreams and encourage you to fulfil everything you’ve ever wanted just to see you happy.
Disadvantage: There are 2 kinds of disadvantages in this one. One is where we ignore our dreams and get consumed in the love that we’ve finally got and the second one is where we follow it with the support of our love only to distance ourselves from them because dreams require sacrifices. The very famous “It’s time to leave home” expression aka long distance here you come. You have to deal with distance because one of the younger tweens have to study more or have other achievements to follow. This leads to lesser time for each other, with barely any branches left to keep the spark alive. You cannot be not supportive, you cannot ask them to stay back for you, you cannot expect that they won’t be consumed in everything that they have ever wanted to do. You can only watch them be happy and follow whatever they have been wanting to follow for a long long time and be happy for them while the relationship or your heart shatters with time.
Advantage: While you are young, you don’t have many responsibilities and so you can let go of what you can spend and have a great time to together because moments matter more than savings when you are young.
Disadvantage: We loose out on saving for our future selves. Only smart couples, make smart decisions on saving money for their future but while we are in our 20’s carelessness does creep in often.
Advantage: While a man can always grow from a woman and visa versa you know how to tackle the world in a much better manner.
Disadvantage: Bad relationships can cause trust issues, depression and strong needs to not really take care of ourselves when we are young.
Advantage: This is a great way to move on from our families and re-discover ourselves with newer people.
Disadvantage: Meanwhile our family thinks we don’t have time for them and might make them feel like we are ignoring them but in reality we are just moving on with our lives.
Advantage: We’re never alone because they are just a text or call away.
Disadvantage: We distance ourselves with the feeling of loneliness thinking we are safe but when the ones we love have to move away or are gone it hits us like a bus that we got so distant on learning to be alone that we don’t know how to deal with it anymore.
Advantage: Dating obviously teaches us to grow up and be more mature and to learn to tackle to the world in new ways…but
Disadvantage: In your 20’s we aren’t really that mature. Small situations seem big, big situations get ignored. We do thinks to impress the other half, the other half does things to impress the other one. Sometimes it turns out the relationship is so immature that we don’t realise it because we all are still such kids and yet learning our lessons.
These are just a few points about what it’s like to date in your 20’s. What do you guys think? Is it a boon or a bane? Let me know.
Until the next blog.