Being Brave Is The Most Important Life Skill You’ll Need! Part 1

I am going to keep this short since I cannot write too much today but this is one of the most important posts I have been thinking to write since a while now but couldn’t find the perfect subject. One of the most important skills in life is that you have to be brave. Being brave not only helps you work out the bad parts in life but it also helps you appreciate the good parts right.

Following your dreams is one of the main motivators of bravery. Dreams need brave souls to achieve them.

I love to travel and for the first time in a long time I booked my tickets to Greece for a solo trip 6 months back.

2 months ago I had a major slip disc.

I have people constantly worrying whether I will be able to go or not and despite all the worries I’m trying not to be scared to go on this trip that is less than a month away. I am still in recovery but I am pushing and trying so hard just to go on a trip by myself  that I have been dreaming about since so long.

The doctors don’t think I should cancel but they are worried too.

I immediately wanted to cry, especially today since I’ve got just 3 weeks left and I’m still struggling to be okay. But, I told myself, this is the hardest time I have ever had in my entire life and I am not going to give up right now.

I decided to be brave for myself and my family because if I don’t show courage, I’ll loose hope of ever making another travel plan again.

Anything can happen at anytime but you have to stay strong especially when things are bad. Bad things only stay if we want them too. Be a fighter, a surviver and push your limits every single day, to not only inspire yourself but even instil courage in others. 

To be continued…Until the next blog


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Feelings On Vacations

Hands dug deep in the sand and feet soaked into the warm water. The glazing sun beat on her skin and the cold air filled her lungs. Salty sweat trikled down her lips and the ochre grains below her long legs, exfoliated her skin.

The sky was the same but the land was different. Beautiful magnetic blue waves stroked her toes and she sinked in deeper with every cold breath. Her phone clung safe in a plastic bag, making her worry free.

The birds chirped and her eyes widened through her dark sunglasses. The clouds made funny images and the humans chatted away in exotic soft languages. There was noise but it felt sweeter in a new place. The scent of chocolate and strawberry lured her nose. The thought of a sugary-cold ice cream, moving along her the warm linings of her throat, aroused her skin as the tinkling sound of an icecream truck passed by.

It was the perfect vacation. Away from all her fears, away from all her broken dreams and away from reality. 


 Until the next blog! 

Have I Inspired You Enough? 

I walked past the green grass, right under the blue sky. The timing was perfect. I felt alive. I looked at the grey concrete below my feet. It was warmed by the sun.

I was about to let my feet try out the black and white striped paint on the ground that was adjacent to me when the scent of spice and sweet sweat caught my nose.

It was like nothing I had felt before, or at least I thought so at the moment. It was pure bliss. His white brillant smile radiated my heart and his midnight black hair shinned under the sun.

My throat went dry, my feet froze. My lips shivered. His shadow neared me and I gluped roughly in a moment of nervousness. We were inches away soon enough and his dark iris caught my brown ones. His feet suddenly stopped and his long neck slid to the right. We had entered into each others world. 

“Hello” he said. And I knew it for sure then. 


Until the next blog! 

Learning To Be Patient – Nothing needs to be done RIGHT AWAY

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I think this article is one that extremely impatient people with no tricks up their sleeves would really want to read. And why do I think that? It’s because I would probably be one of them.

The biggest truths about people pretending to be patient is that they know they are going to tip over at any moment. You cannot fake it. You’re either patient or you’re not.

So how do you develop patience?

#1 It cannot be developed, it has to be rewarding

I always struggled with this whole idea of ‘developing’ patience. You don’t develop patience, you instead reward yourself every time you are patient. Every time you get impatient the results are never pleasing. How about challenging yourself to be being patient about one thing and if the time is worth the wait, it starts to get addictive. You’ll keep growing patient all the time, you’ll love the reward and results so much, you’ll wait every time something that needs waiting comes your way!

#2 Patience needs opportunities

You need a worthwhile opportunity to practice patience. You want to buy a new phone? – How old is your old one? Can it wait longer? If yes, then why not wait longer? You can’t seem to get the attention of your boss lately , should you just complain about it to her/him or should you just wait to prove your worth to gain their attention instead? You need a good opportunity to be patient otherwise you’ll be wasting your time on needless ones.

#3 The time and wait does not have to be the same as others

Everybody has different patience levels, you don’t have to follow someone else’s path to learning how to get patient. Sometimes it’s not in your personality to be as patient as other people. Get to a goal you are comfortable with and stick to that timeline and be proud of it.

#4 Don’t stress more by learning to be patient

One of the worst things to ever happen to me – is the feelings of being pressurised to be more patient like others. Nobody wants to live according to someone else’s standards. In trying to please others, you end up hurting yourself even more. Pushing harder all the time, at every aspect in your life will only lead you to burst out at any moment, anywhere. It’s okay to loose patience sometimes, you just have to try to control in situations you feel like you need to.

#5 Believe patience is a second chance

The most fulfilling thought I get when I’m trying to grow patience is that, I have the luxury of time, nothing needs to be done RIGHT AWAY. A thought can be thought again, a response can be framed in a better way, feelings can be understood in a better manner and you can save a lot of time and money by worrying less because you don’t need to get things done immediately. Think about how patience can be a second chance to anything in your life and you’ll definitely feel more positive trying to be patient!

Until the next blog!

Why is it important to keep goals in life?

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I’ve been thinking about how the idea of ‘goals’ really work. Does it help you get somewhere in life you originally had no clue you could get to? Does it guide you during times you feel you’ve got nothing to live for? Is it really important to have one?

Upon asking a friend – what does having a goal in life really mean to them, I got this reply – without a goal, you don’t really have a purpose.

For some of us a goal could be short term or it could be a very very long-term plan, which somehow justifies the life we’ve been living all along. As long as it satisfies you, your goal is something you should look forward to achieving every single day of your life.

Meaningless goals obviously are not meant to help you get anywhere. It is very important to want something so desperately, that you would be ready to do anything for it.

But how these so called ‘goals’ really help us?

 Having a goal could help you gain a reason to wake up in the morning. To really try something you’ve never done before since your wishes haven’t been completed yet. A goal helps you stick to one solution and if it doesn’t 100% satisfy you, you know it’s time to move on.

The really important part of keeping a goal is to make sure you achieve it.

A meaningless goal, as mentioned above will have no meaning in your life because of which you might just disagree that having goals make you happy.

Similarly, having a serious goal but never coming around to achieving it because you don’t have enough time or you’re not sure if your ready for it, leads to the same dissatisfaction as keeping a meaningless goal.

So how do you actually end up achieving a goal?

Here are a few tips and tricks that helped me publish a book, get a great job and learn designing and writing skills entirely on my own.

#1 Write your goals down

Studies claim that people who wrote down their goal were closer to achieving them than those who just made mental notes about them. It barely takes just a few seconds to note down what you want in life and that itself makes you 50% close to achieving it.

#2 Don’t aim too far into the future

The most common mistake most people make and so do I sometimes is, we think we’re gods, we can aspire to do anything we want in life. But it’s not that simple. While keeping in mind the bigger picture, we should ideally aim for realistic short term goals that can help us get closer to the big long term goal we’ve always wanted to achieve. Smaller steps can lead to great big leaps of progress towards the future you want.

#3 Keep your written goals visible to your sight

Don’t just scribble your goals down on a piece of paper and lose it. Keep that paper with you; stick it on a wall and look at goddamn every day. Read it again and again and constantly remind yourself that this is what needs to be completed on your agenda for brighter life.

#4 Talk about your goals with friends

One of the best things I’ve done to achieve my goals – to get myself published, is to tell my friends I’ve always wanted to get published. They constantly reminded me about something I’ve always wanted to do and that’s how I ended up doing it!

#5 Hardwork, hardwork and hardwork

Start living your goals right now. Make it part of your life the minute you write down about it. It’s not a piece of cake but a little bit of persistence and a lot of dedicated hardwork will cause miracles to happen. Keep going at it like a bull chasing a red target and you’ll be there in no time. Just have some patience about it.

Goals have helped the greatest men in the world achieve their biggest dreams. They have kept it real and given everything they have got to achieve. You are no different from the smartest, most intellectual minds in the universe. All you need is a simple reminder and some patience and you will reach greater heights than you had ever thought of achieving before.

So in conclusion all I’d like to say is, yes, having a goal is extremely important and not just any goal, a goal that helps define your purpose in life and keep going at it with every breath you’ve got and you’ll get there sooner or later.

Until the next blog!

 Let me know if anyone has any particular questions about life that they need an answer to and I’d be happy to help!

When Should You Sober Your Ego Down?

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Every now and then I feel inadequate to be part of something as big as what I’m already part of at my workplace. Many times before, people have come to admire the work I do and how I do it. They have appreciated me every now and then. They have felt proud to make me part of their team and they always have open ears to listen to my comments. And while all of this really pleases my ego there are times I don’t reach the bar they have already set for me, simply because I don’t understand how to keep up being okay with not knowing how to do everything.

And it’s your ego, telling you to always be Mr Right, to constantly push your limits so that you never have to feel inadequate again till you’ve pushed so far you hurt your mental health to protect your ego.

Hurting your ego leads to two main things. You either get extremely hot headed and end up hurting others around you by bringing people down or you end up hurting your self esteem and self confidence and feeling extremely depressed about it. 

Both are equally harmful. While the first reaction is harder to recover from, the second reaction could help you save up on the damages by getting back on your feet and putting a band-aid on your ego, giving it enough time to heal.

In every stage of life if you do not tell yourself that you are not yet done learning, your going to end up hurting your ego and trust me I’ve experienced it first hand. And this is when you are supposed to sober your ego down before things get worse!

But how do you do it?

Here are some tricks I learn’t to really control my ego when thing’s don’t seem to be going great for me!

#1 Take a step back

Every time you feel threatened, you should take a step back and try to understand where is that feeling emerging from. Has a recent event triggered it or has to been happening since a long time? Then think about the kind of reaction you want to have about it. Most egotistic people just jump to conclusion and have confrontations but I felt, talking about why I feel a certain way with friends or sometimes even myself can help you reach a better solution.

#2 Listen to listen and not to reply

Often times to prove ourselves right we just talk and talk and talk without really listening to what the other person is saying. Even past confrontations could lead to people wanting to listen to you less because you do not respect them enough to listen to them in the first place. Listening also gives you time to frame your next answer in a better more reasonable manner but always try to understand what the other person is saying first.

#3 It’s okay to be wrong

If your wrong, just be wrong, don’t stress yourself out trying to always be right. If you’re always going to be right, you would have nothing left to learn in your life.

#4 Be good at what you do instead of worrying about how to be the best at everything

I realised the biggest problems I’ve had regarding my ego is trying to go out of my field of expertise and compete with people who have been in that same very field for years. Instead of becoming the best at what I do and learning everything I can about my work, I give time to learn something entirely new which affects my line of work as well as makes me look stupid trying to do something I naturally don’t like to. Which obviously leads to arguments and tension at the workplace. Just stick to things that interest you and be good at that!

#5 Be your biggest fan but also let people help you

Appreciate yourself enough so you don’t burn out but also don’t shut yourself out to other people’s help. Yes, I know sometimes you don’t need it but it’s okay if someone wants to help you, you could let them help you get up or get better at what you do once in a while!

So there it is, just some things I keep telling myself and trying to calm my ego down. Do it when you feel scared and threatened and feel like it’s the end of the world, you will feel much better practicing some of the tips given above!

Until the next blog!