In a world that has designed us to work in pairs is there a singularity of being single? Cost for 2, lesser price for 2, happy hours for 2, entry for 2 and the list goes on. What is it really like to be just 1?
Some might say the freedom of it, the way everything becomes all about you, no second responsibility, no mechanical thinking of making the other person happy and no being asked so where’s your boyfriend/girlfriend.
On the other hand those who have been single for the longest time know what it’s like to show up at parties alone, come home to no one, message no one, having to deal with flirting with a fuck-boy when you thought he was actually interested in you and the list goes on.
Is it really safe to say it’s fun being single or is there more? The grass does seem greener on the other side but it is human tendency to want love, comfort and attention. We have grown to realize either through romantic movies or books or happy endings that we think some of our friends have is what we need to make us happy, then we are surely pretty much fucked with those aspirations.
I don’t know how true that goes but I do know one thing, we are enough being 1 and making ourselves happy. If we’ve come into this world alone we can surely survive it alone. There are more important things to worry about such as who are we? Can we change a life? Do we make a difference in the world? The quality of life we live can make us happy.
While chasing love is part of life, it definitely isn’t everything. When a single person realizes that they aren’t a single person, they are just A PERSON and they are just doing what a person is supposed to do with their lives, the sooner they stop searching for ideas to become what we are driven to believe to become.
2 – is just a number and so is 1. We are humans, we need to form connections not to be loved but to grow and understand the meaning of life. Finding a partner along the way could just be a co-incidence but rest assured, you have to continue on your journey of making a mark in this world and understanding why your singularity matters the most.
Stay strong and talk deep. You’ve got this handled a long time ago.
Until the next blog!